All I see is RED! Red décor, red roses, everything red. Is red the color of love? What does the month of love really mean? Once upon a time my manager had sent me a picture of a milk bottle with the Best before date being the 14th of February. And he told me “Atleast the milk has a date for Valentines day.” Haha, yeah cheesy story aside I didn’t have a date back then. But jokes aside. I feel like Valentine’s day is just some kind of retail BS that makes people believe that if you don’t get chocolates and roses on this day then there’s something wrong with you. 👎
With me personally I only remember one Valentines Day clearly…it was the first time that I had actually got roses ever. But what does that mean? Do flowers symbolize love? And if they do, why wait for one specific day to start dishing them out? And shouldn’t you be showing people you love them all the time? Sometimes life is too short, you may have wanted to say something or do something for someone and then you realize it’s too late. I realised this when someone who I was close to died at a young age. It makes you question the path you’re on, the impact you’re making, the lives you’re touching. It makes you realize that everyday should be lived as if it were your last.
And no, I don’t mean you should splurge on your hearts desires, but rather that you should live humbly, love a lot and laugh even more . I guess what I’m trying to say here is that love starts within. If you love yourself loving everybody around you becomes easier. I have struggled with the o so famous “self love” for so long. It’s not some easy thing that you can master in a day or in a month. A lot of people struggle to love themselves, they look only externally for love. Yeah, having someone who you love is amazing but what’s the point if you can’t love yourself?
I once experienced that in a relationship. I was going through a really depressive state of my life and I always felt the need to be with this person. I needed to be around someone all the time. Like ALL the time. When I look back I realize how mentally draining that must have been for the guy I was dating. And I understand now that something was lacking in my life. I did not know what self love was. Everyone talks about loving others but not many focus on loving themselves.
My aim for this month is to love myself more. Really and truly love myself. I want to take pictures of myself smiling like a dork, wear my hair differently and dress boldly. I want to fall inlove with myself.
As I have already mentioned, self love takes a long time. But let us start small. Let us start with a 28 day self-love/self-care challenge. Attached below are 30 ways to practice self love. And there are so many other ways that may be unique to you. Do one thing daily and journal about it. At the end of February reflect back on it and see how far you’ve come.
Lots of Love.
Wishing you a happy and loving month ahead. ❤🌻💪💋😊