Sometimes I start off my blog posts as if I’m about to vlog and then I remember that written word and spoken word are two completely different things. I imagine my writing one way and someone else could interpret it in a completely different way-ENGLISH THOUGH.
So last month brought me a new job and also a lack of inspiration. I don’t think I constructively worked out a day in March and I lost all hope in my blog. I thought my content wasn’t going to be good enough. But honestly, what is good enough? Is there a stamp of approval I need to get somewhere to speak about what’s going on in my head? And obviously I realised the answer is HELL FREAKING NO!
The 29th of March was my birthdaaay. Whooopeeee. And what a happy day it was. Like seriously, I had an amazing day. And as I was thinking about making it to see another year I’ve realised how much I’ve actually changed. I’ve realised that nobody can say that they were the same person 5 years ago, nor can they say they’re the same person they were a year ago.
Time allows you to become yourself-it has allowed me to become myself by letting go of who I thought I was. So here’s a few lessons I’ve learnt in my year of being 22;
ENERGY DOES NOT LIE
I cannot emphasize how true this is. Anybody who does not match with your frequency bubble will interfere your frequency. Your frequency being your emotions; it generally turns your positive into negative-either towards a situation or a person. Stay away from bad vibes.
ITS OKAY TO OUTGROW PEOPLE
I used to be a party on the weekend kinda girl. I thought that was the definition of a “fun” life. And boy was I wrong. When I sit down and reflect on that part of my life I realised that nobody really cared about me. Alcohol and clubbing became the norm-and that apparently helped take problems away.
I didn’t listen to my body-I followed blindly. I had no sense of self and I was losing myself in the process. I learnt the hard way with this one. I outgrew my bad habits and lost friends in the process.
IT’S OKAY TO TAKE RISKS
Sometimes you’ve just gotta wing it. You gotta quit the job. You’ve gotta try something completely new. You’ve gotta make a fool of yourself. You’ve gotta ask questions. And most importantly you’ve gotta learn. Live and learn fam.
ACCEPTING WHEN YOU’RE WRONG
Sometimes we do things to hurt people-and we never truly know how we’ve hurt them. Just saying sorry doesn’t mean you’re actually sorry. What I’ve learnt is that bad situations should be talked about and should be a learning curve. We get the opportunity to understand someone better and understand why they feel the way they do. Not everyone is the same-and being genuinely sorry for something can mean the world to someone.
LEARNING TO SPEAK UP
This one actually was never ever one of my strong points. I spoke well in school-when I had to do speeches. But I was never the one to stand up for how I feel. I let my feelings get brushed over. What a mistake on my part. But last year I realised how important speaking up is. When someone does something that is disrespectful to you but fails to understand why you feel the way you do- even after you’ve spoken to them about it doesn’t need a place in your life. Cut off people who disrespect you. Respect is a two way street.
ME LEARNING TO STAND UP FOR MYSELF WAS HONESTLY THE BEST THING I COULD HAVE EVER DONE.
STEPPING OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE
No great hero was born out of a comfort zone. Oh shit. Yeah I doubt pregnancy is a comfort zone. Haha. Anyway I mean that you choose who you want to be. Your thoughts are either holding you back or propelling you forward. Stepping out of your comfort zone means being uncomfortable. Evolution isn’t comfortable. And the only way to reach the next level is to evolve. Outgrow yourself and live your best life.
I feel like I could go on and on. But I’d probably continue this blog in a Part 2.
Wishing everyone a happy Chapter 4 of 12.✌😁🌻